Sometimes negative words from a friend can hurt. They can cut through the heart like a knife. Words that weren't intended to be taking out of context sometimes do and when this happens we seek revenge and try to hurt that person also.We may seek to get back at them--thus a grudge is born, and it is always feed with anger, pride and ultimately in the end--- guilt.
The tongue is mightier than the Sword. Kind words can build up a person, make there day and raise esteem. Harsh words can create wrath in an instant.
A friend once said something to me that I took the wrong way. It was a remark just out of conversation that left me feeling inadequate and insignificant; it destroyed my self esteem. I felt the need to retaliate against him and get revenge by saying something to him that I hoped would make him feel 2 feet tall.
It was well over a year before I talked to my friend again. I avoided him and scoffed when he walked by. Holding this grudge this long, every day was a victory for me because of the pain he caused me by his remark--- I would not give in.
One day our paths crossed at the coffee machine and we shook hands and the grudge was over in an instant. I was relieved and the world seemed a little lighter.
Holding a grudge was easy for me until the overwhelmingly guilt, of losing my friend, and missing the little tidbits of humor we shared in our work day.
It was hard for me to remember what he had said to me that day to cause my anger.
However I remember the guilt I felt as I tried to expire him from my life.
Life should be a thrill ride. We should enjoy what we can. It should be lived in capacity with as little animosity as possible. Pride is not a virtue. It is in reality, a deadly sin. Let the grudges in our life be short lived and find some peace knowing that god said it best "Vengeance is mine." If we can only strive to remember that Pride is not hard to swallow--- if you chew it long enough.



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